Daddy, I Don’t Want You to Go on Work Trips Anymore.

This is what our 4-year-old just said to me during our dinner conversation. It came out of nowhere and I immediately started holding back tears.

I replied “Why honey?”, fully knowing the answer to that question.

He replied, “Because I want you to stay home ALL the time.”

“Awe, I wish I could stay home all the time too buddy.”

For a moment I considered explaining that I had to go on work trips to make money in order to buy this or that, but I stopped myself for a couple reasons.

  1. I’ve been trying to teach the importance of working toward something you want. I don’t want to spoil his innocence by placing an importance on money at such a young age.
  2. Because letting him know I wished the same was enough.

And Something Happened Earlier Today

If this wasn’t emotional enough, earlier in the day I realized I have a longer than usual trip coming up next month…and I’ll miss our youngest’s third birthday. Yep, you read that correctly.

Talk about a double whammy of traveling-Dad-guilt in one day. Holy shit. Pass me the tissues!

How I Stay Connected with Family During Travel

I’ve been traveling at least three times a month for almost a year. It’s easy to get into work and travel mode and think of nothing else, but through trial and error, I’ve gotten into one habit that helps me stay connected with my family during business travel.A habit that keeps me connected with family during business travel. Click To Tweet

It’s a short list and if you have any of your own tips to share, please do so in the comments tell me on Twitter and let me know what works for you.

  • A FaceTime call, even if only for a few minutes every morning.
  • A FaceTime call, every night after their dinner and before bedtime.

This probably seems simple enough, but it can be a tough schedule to stick too, especially when time zone differences are involved. Sometimes the conversations are great and other times I don’t even talk to my kids during these calls.

If the kids are in play mode in the evening or rushing to get ready for preschool and not able to slow down and pay attention, my wife will just place the phone in a position so I can see and listen to what’s going on.

I then make sure to talk to them. Even if they don’t reply. My theory is that if they can hear me, they know I’m with them, even if not physically. That’s the hope anyway.

More Ways to Stay Connected with Your Kids When Your Traveling

Here are a couple ideas I’ve had that I’m going to experiment with this year, especially as my travel schedule ramps up soon.

  • Leave sticky notes around the house for them (they can’t read yet, but Mommy can help).
  • Draw them a picture for each day I’m gone and have Mommy give it to them each day.

Wow, that’s all I could come up with. Surely there must be more? Feel free to post your ideas in the comments. I need help! 🙂


  1. Sammy Blackmore on February 28, 2017 at 12:26 am

    I’m sure your kids will understand when they grow up, and you’re doing everything you can to stay connected even when you’re away.

    • Adam W. Warner on March 2, 2017 at 1:17 am

      Thanks for the vote of confidence Sammy. Let’s hope it’s all worth it in the end:)

  2. Michele Butcher-Jones on March 11, 2017 at 3:14 am

    Oh this breaks my heart but I have been there before. I had to miss the minion’s first cheer competition for a WordCamp. The hubs recorded it for me and sent lots of pictures. Another thing to stay connected is to make “surprise” videos. You can make ones to send to them and they can do ones with mom to send to you. Kids get a kick out of doing anything that gets a response. My 3yr old great-niece and I one time had a snapchat type of conversation where I would send goofy selfies to my niece and then she would take silly pictures of her daughter making the same faces. She said that her daughter laughed about it for a long time and was telling everyone she could about what her aunt did.

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